Professional Counselling Services

Professional Counselling Services
 

What the hell is this counselling stuff all about?
 

You might be wondering “just what the hell is involved?” Am I going to make you lie on a couch and talk about your childhood, or try and hold your hand while we talk about our feelings?

Bugger that! Not here.

Alongside my expertise as a guide through the process, we will work together to make desired changes. Sometimes it can be through the use of a more directive therapy such as CBT that these changes can occur, but there are many different ways of working.

I like to consider my ways of working as ‘tools'.

 
 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

The most common method used by psychologists, CBT is a simple and effective way of addressing problems through the association of thoughts. Basically it looks at the thoughts a person associates with a particular event, and the beliefs surrounding those thoughts. It is our thoughts that prescribe our actions in any event.

By addressing these often ‘unhelpful’ thoughts clients can begin to gain new understandings of life events, and therefore lessen the negative effects associated with such events. CBT is an educative theory and so the expectation is that you as a client would learn the process and maintain its practice beyond the counselling sessions.

 
 

Narrative

Narrative therapy has us look at our lives as a series of stories or ‘narratives’. Often, those experiencing problems will gravitate toward the stories of themselves that ‘fit’ with the problem. By exploring other stories of a person’s life we are able to build new ways of describing a person’s experience, which can often be in direct contrast to the ‘problem saturated’ ones.

A catch phrase of Narrative therapy is “The problem is the problem, not the person”, and thus the problem is externalised, which allows a more objective look at what is really going on.

If you use metaphors, this way of working can be extremely effective, and also a lot of fun.

 
 

Strengths-based

Talking about problems is fine – to a point. There is a strong argument for focusing direction away from the problem and instead looking closer at what positive and effective strategies a person has in place already – often without even realising it. This is the basics of a strengths-focused way of working.

We all are capable of moments of greatness, even though at times we may not recognize them. Through a strengths-based way of working clients are able to begin to acknowledge their strengths in a way that will enable them to tackle presenting issues.

Often, when we are experiencing very challenging times, it can be difficult to see how resilient and amazing we can be.

 
 

Other tools

There are a number of other effective psychological theories that inform my work but sometimes the best tools are the ones that are developed for a certain task. This is an attitude that I hold when working with clients; instead of making a client ‘fit’ a certain way of working, why not alter that ‘tool’ to fit the client? In this adaptive way of working there can be results that might not otherwise occur.

Almost anything can be therapeutic if it connects with somebody to bring about positive change; jokes, music, sport - all can be used to guide a session. Plus we’re kiwi blokes, famous for our ingenuity and adaptability; the 'No. 8 wire' mentality is alive and encouraged at Men’s Work.

 

Relationship counselling is also a service available. Although Men's Work is for guys, there is acknowledgement of a need for co-joint counselling. Many blokes are reluctant to go to counselling with their partner but the advantage of having a comfortable environment means a bloke is more likely to be receptive to the idea.



If you are interested in finding out more contact me now to book a free half hour consultation and together we can look at how we might start to ‘get it sorted’.

 
 
 
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